Dont be grateful, thats ok
But dont be ungrateful, for people you actually need to be grateful.
If someone does not teach you to be grateful is fine,
But someone who drives you to be ungrateful, BEWARE!
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Saturday, December 12, 2009
My MOM
My mom, taught us to forgive
even when people hurt us
for no fault of ours!
My mom, taught us to love
even when people hurt us
even when people blame us
My mom, taught us to care
even the people who dont care about us
even the people who are not worthy
My mom, taught us to share
even when we do not have enough
even when the others do not share
My mom, taught us to be patient
even when the other yells at you
even when the other blames you
My mom, herself is an example
who has all these values in her
And epitome of Selflessness!
You need a heart,
to understand my mom.
Who don't are the REAL losers!
Monday, May 25, 2009
Friday, March 27, 2009
Real meaning of Soulmate
Meeting your soulmate doesn't guarantee "happily ever after." Things won't get easier when you find that special someone, and in fact, they might get even harder. Ultimately, a soulmate is someone with whom you can grow, and the only way to grow together is to face challenges together. So if you put your heart and soul into a relationship, stick with it through the ups and downs, even when you question whether it's meant to be, and you might look back decades later and realize that you were with your soulmate all along. True love with your soulmate does not grow on its own: it must be cultivated and continually nurtured.
When bad things happen, shrug and smile :-)
When bad things happen (and they will, no matter what) shrug and smile.
Remind yourself that:
+ Life goes on.
+ Don't let things make you upset or angry.
~Remember it's your choice to get bent out of shape.
~Learn from the experience. Focus on the big picture.
+ You win some, you lose some.
+ This too will pass.
+ You can't please everybody.
+ We live and learn.
+ Don't sweat the small stuff.
+ Remember that sometimes bad things lead to the best things.
NOTE: [This is an extract from one of the online articles. These lines are really worth to be shared.]
Remind yourself that:
+ Life goes on.
+ Don't let things make you upset or angry.
~Remember it's your choice to get bent out of shape.
~Learn from the experience. Focus on the big picture.
+ You win some, you lose some.
+ This too will pass.
+ You can't please everybody.
+ We live and learn.
+ Don't sweat the small stuff.
+ Remember that sometimes bad things lead to the best things.
NOTE: [This is an extract from one of the online articles. These lines are really worth to be shared.]
Question to you - my friend
I have a question for you. What would a good friend do when you are in a difficult situation? Help you? Or just claim "You are a good friend of mine"?
Strengthen your relationship
When you discuss about your relationships with your partner-
1. in the right spirit the acceptance of weaknesses is counted as strength;
2. finding solutions to disparities. The need to make decisions, tentative or final, is absolutely vital. The knowledge that something will be done about a disparity creates a desire in partners to accomplish it. This in itself is positive.
3. openness. Letting down one's defences is not an easy undertaking particularly where feelings are involved. To let your partner into your private space is, in fact, the ultimate stage of Fulfilment.
4. both must focus your discussion on the main purpose, which is the improvement of your relationship.
1. in the right spirit the acceptance of weaknesses is counted as strength;
2. finding solutions to disparities. The need to make decisions, tentative or final, is absolutely vital. The knowledge that something will be done about a disparity creates a desire in partners to accomplish it. This in itself is positive.
3. openness. Letting down one's defences is not an easy undertaking particularly where feelings are involved. To let your partner into your private space is, in fact, the ultimate stage of Fulfilment.
4. both must focus your discussion on the main purpose, which is the improvement of your relationship.
Phobia and numbers
666: Hexakosioihexekontahexaphobia (literally, "fear of the number six hundred sixty-six")
13: Triskaidekaphobia (from Greek tris=three, kai=and, deka=ten) is fear of the number 13.
Apart from numbers, do you dislike or fear a stranger or a foreigner who is significantly different from you?
Hmm, then, you have Xenophobia ;-).
13: Triskaidekaphobia (from Greek tris=three, kai=and, deka=ten) is fear of the number 13.
Apart from numbers, do you dislike or fear a stranger or a foreigner who is significantly different from you?
Hmm, then, you have Xenophobia ;-).
People pleaser
Late Harriet Braiker in her 2001 bestselling book "The Disease to Please - Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome" - has stated "the People Pleaser will suppress his/her own needs in order to satisfy the perceived needs of other".
Thursday, March 26, 2009
C-section of heart
I did a C-section of a heart and I noticed ......
Oh! no sound, no beat
no blood, no veins
wondered, is it a second-grade plastic plaything
worn out with the time.
But, noticed a lot of holes
on the walls of the heart,
probably the warmth flowed out from these,
pulling out all the essentials along with it.
What do I do with this lifeless object?
Do I throw it away or sew it to conceal?
Then a thought struck me,
Why not donate to a person, who has no HEART.
Oh! no sound, no beat
no blood, no veins
wondered, is it a second-grade plastic plaything
worn out with the time.
But, noticed a lot of holes
on the walls of the heart,
probably the warmth flowed out from these,
pulling out all the essentials along with it.
What do I do with this lifeless object?
Do I throw it away or sew it to conceal?
Then a thought struck me,
Why not donate to a person, who has no HEART.
Life Partner ... Friend
Friend = ONLY Friend
Life Partner = Friend ++++ Many other Roles
Life partner is also a friend, but a friend need not be your life partner. Though life partner plays many roles, yet most of them are never satisfied with that relationship.
Life Partner = Always their for/with U, You are P1 in Life.
Friend = Always their for U(tho' not in person), afer all the other P1s in their Life. For Example: You are seriously ill and your Friend's spouse is a little sick. You Friend would take care of their life partner and then come for you.
A very few are blessed with the wisdom to know the value of a true life partner.
Life Partner = Friend ++++ Many other Roles
Life partner is also a friend, but a friend need not be your life partner. Though life partner plays many roles, yet most of them are never satisfied with that relationship.
Life Partner = Always their for/with U, You are P1 in Life.
Friend = Always their for U(tho' not in person), afer all the other P1s in their Life. For Example: You are seriously ill and your Friend's spouse is a little sick. You Friend would take care of their life partner and then come for you.
A very few are blessed with the wisdom to know the value of a true life partner.
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Spirituality
At an exalted level, for the most avid seeker, even animals, birds and inanimate objects can teach a lesson or two in his spiritual quest (which he grasps by keen observation) and all of them are virtually his upa-gurus.
Very true!
Morality!
I read this paragraph, really meaningful!
The basic principles of morality in Hitopadesa (good sayings) offer a firm foundation for developing character as well as spiritual advancement, as one who is dishonest, deceitful, duplicitous, violent, envious, lusty, greedy, and so on cannot make tangible spiritual progress. Practice of its moral principles helps one develop the mode of goodness and keen skill in discriminating, which is essential for dealing with the frauds in modern-day society, who are like the jackals of these fables.
The basic principles of morality in Hitopadesa (good sayings) offer a firm foundation for developing character as well as spiritual advancement, as one who is dishonest, deceitful, duplicitous, violent, envious, lusty, greedy, and so on cannot make tangible spiritual progress. Practice of its moral principles helps one develop the mode of goodness and keen skill in discriminating, which is essential for dealing with the frauds in modern-day society, who are like the jackals of these fables.
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
Weirdo
Some weird questions - pops up
Why did you read this? Come on, you need to answer them ;-) .....
- What is maturity? Tolerating the non-sense or correcting the non-sense?
- Life is simple, no doubt. But, why does it force you to believe it other way sometimes?
- Is Life only about achievements and Self? If not, what more in life do you want?
- Is love unconditional?
- Should you love someone when that someone does not love you? [Here, love is between a man and a lady; not the saintly love with the world].
- Are you a saint if you love someone when the someone does not love you?
- Is being Selfless a crime?
- Why are some people so blind?
- Why do some people HIGHLIGHT only the negatives and give prominence, sidelining all your goodness which is way beyond this trivial negative?
Why did you read this? Come on, you need to answer them ;-) .....
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
Toastmasters Project 2
This is what I intended to talk for Toastmasters Project 2!
Though it turned out to be different ;-). But I enjoyed my speech thoroughly.
Would thank my Mentor Kartik, who helped me.
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Do we have enterpeneurs here or plan to be an enterpeneur in future?
Well, look at the hands thats going up. This shows the blooming enterpeneurship here in India.
Everything starts small, even business; and it should start STRONG. For being it strong, you need a good foundation and for this you need TOOLS to help you travel the long journey successfully.
Imagine, a simple home maker is knitting a shawl somewhere in the corner of the house for her livelihood. She also does paintings sometimes. There is a small computer and has access to net. Now, tell me what better place can she think off other than the HUGE WEB WORLD for her to grow her small business.
One Afternoon after her home chores, she was browsing the net and got so excited to find the DOMAIN name which she wanted (as anyone one of us would be) and registered the same with smallbusiness.
Did smallbusiness get your attention? Well, smallbusiness is nothing but a Yahoo! property which contributes significantly towards revenue generation of Yahoo! SmallBusiness has 99% permium users. SmallBusiness caters to the needs of the small and medium sized business.
A domain is successfully created by her. Now, she gets quite excited explores more and finds out about WebHosting Unlimited service which would help her to create her own web pages and would be the medium to publicise her products. This leads her to upgrade the service from Domains to WebHosting.
Now, how do we help this novice user build web pages because she knows no programming, no web knowledge. This is one of the key strength of Webhosting where it provides a mechanism to create web pages, in a very easy, intuitive manner for any novice user. There are inbuilt tools like SiteSolutions, SiteBuilder, etc. which help any user to build their sites within no time. The user is taken through an easy flow - choosing inbuilt templates, choosing different layouts, easily creating new pages, filling in contents, giving contact details (which would show the place in Yahoo! maps that is embedded in this contact page to provide driving directions), saving and publishing the site.
She was amazed to see the result of her effort for about 1 hour was a beautiful website with neat webpages which she has created just then. Obviously, any novice user would be surprised with the quality of web-page they create out of the tools provided by smallbusiness. Its simple yet elegant, outbeats many professional sites. She adds her content and contact details too.
Somedays passed-by. She realised that Webhosting was not sufficient to satisfy her INCREASING DEMAND for her products. She could not hanlde it any more as the calls started increasing exceeded than what she expected and she seeked for a better service.
She PONDERS what to do.
She casually goes to Smallbusiness Webhosting Control Panel and get to learn about Merchant Solutions where she understands that she can host her products online which end-user can see and choose to buy online itself. Thus, the direct interaction between her and the end-user gets minimised to great extent and can handle more sales with this.
Merchant Solutions starter offers user to host their own stores where the Yahoo! customer can host all their products in there. One of the highlights about MS service is that Yahoo! provides the customer with a mechanism where the customer can give the end-user options of choosing any payment method - could Credit Cards, Paypal, etc. and the payment method is highly secured.
The simple home maker business thrives. Now, she wants to expand, find out new options to market her products and she finds out that in an upgraded version of Merchant solutions called Merchant professional there are different ways to market and promote her product. Thus, she upgrades to Merchant Solutions Professional service. Gets Yahoo!'s help for SEO and the story continues to be big successful HIT.
Now, this lady has "X" customers who does "Y" transactions and guess what?? What?? Yahoo gets (1.5% * X * Y) - Yahoo! gets 1.5% from each and every transaction that happens. This is from 1 user. Imagine when the X & Y volumes are BIG and we help "Z" number of such simple home makers then, nobody would think of buying us ;-)
How smallbusiness became instrumental for this simple home maker to grow and become a very SUCCESSFUL enterpeneur.
Though it turned out to be different ;-). But I enjoyed my speech thoroughly.
Would thank my Mentor Kartik, who helped me.
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Do we have enterpeneurs here or plan to be an enterpeneur in future?
Well, look at the hands thats going up. This shows the blooming enterpeneurship here in India.
Everything starts small, even business; and it should start STRONG. For being it strong, you need a good foundation and for this you need TOOLS to help you travel the long journey successfully.
Imagine, a simple home maker is knitting a shawl somewhere in the corner of the house for her livelihood. She also does paintings sometimes. There is a small computer and has access to net. Now, tell me what better place can she think off other than the HUGE WEB WORLD for her to grow her small business.
One Afternoon after her home chores, she was browsing the net and got so excited to find the DOMAIN name which she wanted (as anyone one of us would be) and registered the same with smallbusiness.
Did smallbusiness get your attention? Well, smallbusiness is nothing but a Yahoo! property which contributes significantly towards revenue generation of Yahoo! SmallBusiness has 99% permium users. SmallBusiness caters to the needs of the small and medium sized business.
A domain is successfully created by her. Now, she gets quite excited explores more and finds out about WebHosting Unlimited service which would help her to create her own web pages and would be the medium to publicise her products. This leads her to upgrade the service from Domains to WebHosting.
Now, how do we help this novice user build web pages because she knows no programming, no web knowledge. This is one of the key strength of Webhosting where it provides a mechanism to create web pages, in a very easy, intuitive manner for any novice user. There are inbuilt tools like SiteSolutions, SiteBuilder, etc. which help any user to build their sites within no time. The user is taken through an easy flow - choosing inbuilt templates, choosing different layouts, easily creating new pages, filling in contents, giving contact details (which would show the place in Yahoo! maps that is embedded in this contact page to provide driving directions), saving and publishing the site.
She was amazed to see the result of her effort for about 1 hour was a beautiful website with neat webpages which she has created just then. Obviously, any novice user would be surprised with the quality of web-page they create out of the tools provided by smallbusiness. Its simple yet elegant, outbeats many professional sites. She adds her content and contact details too.
Somedays passed-by. She realised that Webhosting was not sufficient to satisfy her INCREASING DEMAND for her products. She could not hanlde it any more as the calls started increasing exceeded than what she expected and she seeked for a better service.
She PONDERS what to do.
She casually goes to Smallbusiness Webhosting Control Panel and get to learn about Merchant Solutions where she understands that she can host her products online which end-user can see and choose to buy online itself. Thus, the direct interaction between her and the end-user gets minimised to great extent and can handle more sales with this.
Merchant Solutions starter offers user to host their own stores where the Yahoo! customer can host all their products in there. One of the highlights about MS service is that Yahoo! provides the customer with a mechanism where the customer can give the end-user options of choosing any payment method - could Credit Cards, Paypal, etc. and the payment method is highly secured.
The simple home maker business thrives. Now, she wants to expand, find out new options to market her products and she finds out that in an upgraded version of Merchant solutions called Merchant professional there are different ways to market and promote her product. Thus, she upgrades to Merchant Solutions Professional service. Gets Yahoo!'s help for SEO and the story continues to be big successful HIT.
Now, this lady has "X" customers who does "Y" transactions and guess what?? What?? Yahoo gets (1.5% * X * Y) - Yahoo! gets 1.5% from each and every transaction that happens. This is from 1 user. Imagine when the X & Y volumes are BIG and we help "Z" number of such simple home makers then, nobody would think of buying us ;-)
How smallbusiness became instrumental for this simple home maker to grow and become a very SUCCESSFUL enterpeneur.
Tuesday, February 5, 2008
Differentiation
What is the thin line that differentiates these?
Determined and Stubborn
Self-Respect and Ego
Confidence and Arrogance
Innocence and Ignorance
Determined and Stubborn
Self-Respect and Ego
Confidence and Arrogance
Innocence and Ignorance
Monday, February 4, 2008
Wonderful statement
I borrow this liner ..........
"no need to offer a shoulder to someone..who does not care for it"
Wow! what a valid statement.
"no need to offer a shoulder to someone..who does not care for it"
Wow! what a valid statement.
Where are we heading?
You know what, it is nice to have a space where you can just pour out your thoughts just the way they flow .... but everyone need not agree with this or might be no one agrees with what you think. How does that matter to you, it is just a place to post your free thoughts ..... Wow! what a feeling! Just being the true SELF - awesome :-). You would not be a hypocrite or have a mask in your words but being yourself there .....
Don't you think technology is actually creating voidness and also increasing the gap between two individuals - many reasons for it; like
- people have started interacting with virtual identities and feel more solace; as the anonymity help them to be themselves - be it good or bad!
- virtual interactions - like SMS, emails rather than a face to face talk; this leads to masking your real emotion and can always make up statements and fake things. Even if you convey true emotions, everyone need not understand the depth of it and some would not even understand.
And with much other influence, we actually lose our individuality without our realization! Relationships are so superficial and not deep enough to sustain and have no lasting relationships! Where are we heading to? Do all of us understand this?
Don't you think technology is actually creating voidness and also increasing the gap between two individuals - many reasons for it; like
- people have started interacting with virtual identities and feel more solace; as the anonymity help them to be themselves - be it good or bad!
- virtual interactions - like SMS, emails rather than a face to face talk; this leads to masking your real emotion and can always make up statements and fake things. Even if you convey true emotions, everyone need not understand the depth of it and some would not even understand.
And with much other influence, we actually lose our individuality without our realization! Relationships are so superficial and not deep enough to sustain and have no lasting relationships! Where are we heading to? Do all of us understand this?
My thought process
One example of my weird thought but a valid one for me!
I always thought I should get this, I should get that and I used to yearn for the same. When these expectations where not met, I used to feel real bad and ask myself "why this is happening to me?" and all such silly questions (but valid and really deep at that point of time).
Then, suddenly some thoughts made me think that there are other people too who might be thinking like me so why dont I do for others which is in my control, at least let them feel good and nice, instead of just expecting from others. Slowly started doing things for which I craved for myself to others and the amount of satisfaction I derive from that is uncomparable and I feel soooo good. I really cannot express how different and nice I feel.
This doesnot mean I have no expectations, probably my expectations have changed ;-)
I always thought I should get this, I should get that and I used to yearn for the same. When these expectations where not met, I used to feel real bad and ask myself "why this is happening to me?" and all such silly questions (but valid and really deep at that point of time).
Then, suddenly some thoughts made me think that there are other people too who might be thinking like me so why dont I do for others which is in my control, at least let them feel good and nice, instead of just expecting from others. Slowly started doing things for which I craved for myself to others and the amount of satisfaction I derive from that is uncomparable and I feel soooo good. I really cannot express how different and nice I feel.
This doesnot mean I have no expectations, probably my expectations have changed ;-)
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
Care and Understand who cares for you!
Have you ever faced this situation -
If you ask "Did you reach" after the person left from your place, then, the other thinks, why is this person intruding; while actually the person should think "Wow! This person is caring and cares about me" and feel great about it. The real intention is you care, you are not trying to spy this person. See the difference in thoughts and attitdue.
The person who do not understand who genuienly cares them are the big losers.
If you ask "Did you reach" after the person left from your place, then, the other thinks, why is this person intruding; while actually the person should think "Wow! This person is caring and cares about me" and feel great about it. The real intention is you care, you are not trying to spy this person. See the difference in thoughts and attitdue.
The person who do not understand who genuienly cares them are the big losers.
Sunday, December 2, 2007
LOVE and LIFE
I read -
"Love is the GOAL, Life is the journey .........
Life is like a pilgrimage, and unless love is attained, it remains a pilgrimage, never reaching anywhere."
Definition of LOVE differs from person to person.
"Love is the GOAL, Life is the journey .........
Life is like a pilgrimage, and unless love is attained, it remains a pilgrimage, never reaching anywhere."
Definition of LOVE differs from person to person.
Be Authentic
I read -
Truthfulness means authenticity - to be true, not to be false, not to use masks. Whatsoever is your real face, show it at whatever the cost.
To be authentic means to remain true to your own being. How to remain true? 3 things to be remembered:
1. Never listen to anybody, what they tell you to be. Always listen to your inner voice, what you would like to be; otherwise your whole life will be wasted.
Do not allow others to manipulate and control you.
2. Never wear a mask. Be true whatsoever the cost.
If you are angry, be angry. It is risky, but dont smile because that is being untrue. You have been taught that when you are angry, smile, but then your smile becomes false a mask - just an excercie of the lips and nothing else. The heart full of anger, poison, and the lips smiling; you become a false phenomenon. Then, when you really want to smile you cannot.
When you want to be angry, be angry. Nothing is wrong in being angry. If you want to laugh, laugh. Nothing is wrong in laughing loudly.
3. Always remain in present because all falseness enter either from the past of from the future.
That which has passed has passed. Dont bother about it and dont carry it as a burden; otherwise it will not allow you to be authentic to the present. Dont unnecessarily be bothered about the future, otherwise that will come into the present and destroy it."
Truthfulness means authenticity - to be true, not to be false, not to use masks. Whatsoever is your real face, show it at whatever the cost.
To be authentic means to remain true to your own being. How to remain true? 3 things to be remembered:
1. Never listen to anybody, what they tell you to be. Always listen to your inner voice, what you would like to be; otherwise your whole life will be wasted.
Do not allow others to manipulate and control you.
2. Never wear a mask. Be true whatsoever the cost.
If you are angry, be angry. It is risky, but dont smile because that is being untrue. You have been taught that when you are angry, smile, but then your smile becomes false a mask - just an excercie of the lips and nothing else. The heart full of anger, poison, and the lips smiling; you become a false phenomenon. Then, when you really want to smile you cannot.
When you want to be angry, be angry. Nothing is wrong in being angry. If you want to laugh, laugh. Nothing is wrong in laughing loudly.
3. Always remain in present because all falseness enter either from the past of from the future.
That which has passed has passed. Dont bother about it and dont carry it as a burden; otherwise it will not allow you to be authentic to the present. Dont unnecessarily be bothered about the future, otherwise that will come into the present and destroy it."
INTIMACY
I read -
"Hit-and-run relationships have become more common in a society like ours that has grown more rootless, less tied to traditional structures, and more accepting of casual sex. But at the same time there arises an undercurrent of feeling that something is missing - a QUALITY of INTIMACY.
This quality is very little to do with the physical. Far more important to intimacy is a willingness to expose our deepest feelings and vulnerabilities, with the trust that the other person will treat these with care."
How true. Everyone is afraid to be truely intimate. It is really scary to wear-off the mask that is been carried over for years.
Think about it.
"Hit-and-run relationships have become more common in a society like ours that has grown more rootless, less tied to traditional structures, and more accepting of casual sex. But at the same time there arises an undercurrent of feeling that something is missing - a QUALITY of INTIMACY.
This quality is very little to do with the physical. Far more important to intimacy is a willingness to expose our deepest feelings and vulnerabilities, with the trust that the other person will treat these with care."
How true. Everyone is afraid to be truely intimate. It is really scary to wear-off the mask that is been carried over for years.
Think about it.
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
Tuesday, September 18, 2007
7 Surprising Keys to Happiness
Extract from "Meditation" Blog
1. Go for a walk.
2. Listen to some quality music.
3. Think of others less fortunate.
4. Read something radical!
5. Laughing at laughter.
6. Simple breathing meditation.
7. Doodling just for fun!
To really practice/achieve each of these - visit 7 Surprising Keys to Happiness
1. Go for a walk.
2. Listen to some quality music.
3. Think of others less fortunate.
4. Read something radical!
5. Laughing at laughter.
6. Simple breathing meditation.
7. Doodling just for fun!
To really practice/achieve each of these - visit 7 Surprising Keys to Happiness
GOMA CITY
Goma is a city of 160,000 in the eastern Democratic Republic of the Congo. Goma neighbors the active Nyiragongo Volcano directly to its north, and hugs the coast of Lake Kivu to its south.
More info @ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Goma
More info @ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Goma
Even the greatest of loves ...
"Without expression," Sternberg warns, "even the greatest of loves can die" (1987, p.341)
so, be expressive ...
more -> http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love
Responsibility
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• If we want peace
– we have responsibility to be peaceful
• If we want clean world
– we have responsibility to keep the world clean!
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